“Whoever is able to anger you is able to control you.” – Lamine Pearlheart
Aggravated? Irritated? Bothered? Angry? All these feelings, or emotions, can be interchanged to describe the feeling of being annoyed. We as humans will encounter being annoyed more frequently than we would like. The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines annoyed as “feeling or showing angry irritation.”
Feeling annoyed can be caused from just about anything. But knowing what to do and how deal with being annoyed is important so that you do not overreact or hurt someone. Feeling annoyed is one of the most important emotions we as humans have. When you feel annoyed or angry, it is a sign that something needs to change.
It is normal and important for you to express yourself but doing it in the right way is key. Finding ways that work for you to help you cope in healthy ways during these times are critical for controlling your emotions. Listed below are 4 ways that can help to deal with your feelings and emotions of being annoyed.
#1: Remove Yourself
When you feel annoyed, whether it be caused by someone treating you unfairly, you feeling threatened or attacked, others not respecting you or your feelings, or maybe it’s because something has interrupted you from reaching your goals – there are ways to deal with your emotions positively. The last thing you want to do is overreact or act in the moment.
You will need to cool off before making a premature decision. If possible, when you start to feel annoyed or angry it is best for you to step away and remove yourself from the situation. Once you have removed yourself from the situation you can cool off and decide the best way to handle it. There are many ways to go about cooling yourself off so that you can open your mind and decide what is the best for you to do.
#2: Talk to a Friend
One thing you can do is talk to a close friend. Having a friend to talk to about what is causing you to be annoyed can be helpful. As an outsider from the situation, a friend is someone who can be a shoulder for you to lean on, listen to you, and offer advice. Being able to talk through the situation that made you annoyed, can be beneficial for you.
Talking about feeling annoyed can help you realize that the situation may not have been that big of a deal to begin with or you might realize that there was another underlying issue that caused you to become annoyed. Having a friend to talk to about anything and allowing yourself to feel emotions is beneficial so that you do not bottle emotions up and boil over, which will result in you feeling worse and could result in you unintentionally hurting yourself or others.
Another thing you can do when you get annoyed is to exercise. Exercising can be going for a walk, a run, a spin class, weightlifting, playing a sport with a group of friends, or attending a group fitness class. You could also do less strenuous exercise such as gardening, dancing, or housework.
Exercising releases endorphins, which triggers a positive feeling in your body. After exercising you will feel a sense of euphory and can be accompanied by a positive and energizing outlook on life. When you exercise you focus on your workout and you are able to forget about everything else that is going on outside of your workout. Exercising is not only a good option for you when you get annoyed, but it is also a stress reliever, can boost your mental state, and overall is a good way to help yourself stay healthy.
Try meditating. Meditation is the process of training your mind to focus and redirect your thoughts. Through meditation you can train your brain to be rewired for positive thoughts, which pushes the less positive ones away. You can increase awareness of yourself and your surroundings through meditation. There are many ways that you can go about meditating – such as mindful slow breathing, yoga, journaling, or reading a book.
Accept and Respect the Process
When you get annoyed allow yourself to process the feeling, calm down by doing something that allows you to find your happy place, explore the reason why you became annoyed, own up to your part of wrongdoing, and decide the best course of action to handle the situation that caused you to be annoyed.
Going through this process will allow you to learn something yourself. It might be that you learn how to better communicate clearly with others, how to improve how you respond to being annoyed, or maybe you learned what you can do differently next time you become annoyed.
Each of us react to being annoyed differently, and some of us experience being annoyed more often. Some people express their annoyance verbally, aggressively, violently, passively, or some people will hide their feelings. Knowing how you deal with being annoyed and knowing what helps you calm down so you can reassess the situation will be beneficial for you throughout your entire life. Doing more of what makes you happy can also help you become more focused on the positive things in your life, and less on what makes you unhappy and annoyed.